The Judge

It does not matter how you choose to live your life- whether you go to an Ivy League college, go straight to work, start a family- someone will judge you for it. Whether this person is a silent judger, or just blatant, someone will always find a reason to project their insecurities and negativity on you. The only way to handle this is just to deal with it.

 
It is inevitable. First, you have to keep in mind that the worst critic is yourself. You have to get over it and realize that it doesn't matter what anyone thinks. I'll give an example from my life:


Freshman and Sophomore year at high school, I was much more timid and careful about what I did because I cared about what other people thought about me. I thought that if I did something wrong, people would judge me and it would be the end of the world. In the long run, whatever I did, wrong or right, I was judged. It's life and we all do it. At some point in our life, we have been the victims of this and perpetrators of it.

The internal fears of what others thing can overpower you. However, now as a Senior at the high school, I have realized who the fuck cares what other people think. If they judge you for doing something, then cool.

Now, this is definitely easier said than done because we all crave validation in what we do. Everyone wants to be looked up to, appreciated, and respected.


Where to go from here? First off, don't be the hater. Think about how you felt being judged and try to not dish it out as much or tear someone down for being them. Second, don't let the hater stop you from what you want to do. If you focus on the road ahead, it will be so so so much better for you in the long run.