The Judge

It does not matter how you choose to live your life- whether you go to an Ivy League college, go straight to work, start a family- someone will judge you for it. Whether this person is a silent judger, or just blatant, someone will always find a reason to project their insecurities and negativity on you. The only way to handle this is just to deal with it.

 
It is inevitable. First, you have to keep in mind that the worst critic is yourself. You have to get over it and realize that it doesn't matter what anyone thinks. I'll give an example from my life:


Freshman and Sophomore year at high school, I was much more timid and careful about what I did because I cared about what other people thought about me. I thought that if I did something wrong, people would judge me and it would be the end of the world. In the long run, whatever I did, wrong or right, I was judged. It's life and we all do it. At some point in our life, we have been the victims of this and perpetrators of it.

The internal fears of what others thing can overpower you. However, now as a Senior at the high school, I have realized who the fuck cares what other people think. If they judge you for doing something, then cool.

Now, this is definitely easier said than done because we all crave validation in what we do. Everyone wants to be looked up to, appreciated, and respected.


Where to go from here? First off, don't be the hater. Think about how you felt being judged and try to not dish it out as much or tear someone down for being them. Second, don't let the hater stop you from what you want to do. If you focus on the road ahead, it will be so so so much better for you in the long run. 

Group Projects

"Alright so Jane you will be working with Billy, Doug, Jamie and Emily." All of a sudden you turn cold as you realize your teacher has just put you with the worst group of students to work on a group project with.

Group partners can consist of many types of annoying people. We have that person who just refuses to do any work. You will assign them a task and they straight up will not do it. What makes this person worse though, is if they smile, nod, and promise that they will do their portion of the project. However, on the day of the presentation they come up empty handed, leaving you and group group lost.

On the opposite spectrum, you have the worker who completely takes over everyone's job and micromanages the whole thing. Now, what makes this person worse is when they don't even do a good job. If you have ever been in a group project where only one person does the work then you get the grade back and its a mere B-. (-_-).

If you are forced into a group that you do not like, it is important to take the reigns at the beginning and delegate tasks for each person. If that person does not carry out the tasks that they agree on, it should be known to the teacher or authority figure.

When being put in a bad group, just try to stay positive about the situation and handle things before they get messy or procrastinated too much.