The Know It All

Know it alls come in two types: the truly competent and self assured genuine expert, and the person pretending to be an expert. These people think they are the one to go to with anything. he thinks he is the one with special connections.

A true expert may act superior and make others feel stupid. They are also impatient with those who they deem "beneath" them. If there is a problem, this person thinks they are the only one with the solution.


 And you most likely have never heard them

say "I don't know."

Unfortunately we encounter these people in our lives. This person has strong opinions and is very closed off to other ideas. When this person talks, everyone is internally rolling their eyes.

When dealing with this person, pick your battles. It can be exhausting to go against them, but sometimes you just accept it and move it. Once you become aware of this personality type, it will be better to just avoid conflict with them. Just relax, who cares.

The Judge

It does not matter how you choose to live your life- whether you go to an Ivy League college, go straight to work, start a family- someone will judge you for it. Whether this person is a silent judger, or just blatant, someone will always find a reason to project their insecurities and negativity on you. The only way to handle this is just to deal with it.

 
It is inevitable. First, you have to keep in mind that the worst critic is yourself. You have to get over it and realize that it doesn't matter what anyone thinks. I'll give an example from my life:


Freshman and Sophomore year at high school, I was much more timid and careful about what I did because I cared about what other people thought about me. I thought that if I did something wrong, people would judge me and it would be the end of the world. In the long run, whatever I did, wrong or right, I was judged. It's life and we all do it. At some point in our life, we have been the victims of this and perpetrators of it.

The internal fears of what others thing can overpower you. However, now as a Senior at the high school, I have realized who the fuck cares what other people think. If they judge you for doing something, then cool.

Now, this is definitely easier said than done because we all crave validation in what we do. Everyone wants to be looked up to, appreciated, and respected.


Where to go from here? First off, don't be the hater. Think about how you felt being judged and try to not dish it out as much or tear someone down for being them. Second, don't let the hater stop you from what you want to do. If you focus on the road ahead, it will be so so so much better for you in the long run. 

Group Projects

"Alright so Jane you will be working with Billy, Doug, Jamie and Emily." All of a sudden you turn cold as you realize your teacher has just put you with the worst group of students to work on a group project with.

Group partners can consist of many types of annoying people. We have that person who just refuses to do any work. You will assign them a task and they straight up will not do it. What makes this person worse though, is if they smile, nod, and promise that they will do their portion of the project. However, on the day of the presentation they come up empty handed, leaving you and group group lost.

On the opposite spectrum, you have the worker who completely takes over everyone's job and micromanages the whole thing. Now, what makes this person worse is when they don't even do a good job. If you have ever been in a group project where only one person does the work then you get the grade back and its a mere B-. (-_-).

If you are forced into a group that you do not like, it is important to take the reigns at the beginning and delegate tasks for each person. If that person does not carry out the tasks that they agree on, it should be known to the teacher or authority figure.

When being put in a bad group, just try to stay positive about the situation and handle things before they get messy or procrastinated too much.

PDA Couples

                Relationships are a way of life and we run into a variety of different types of couples every day. However, there is a line where their affection is just straight up awkward and uncomfortable. I think we have all been in a situation like this or the forever awkward feeling of being a third-wheel.

When dealing with someone else's public displays of affection, you have a couple of options:

• Don't Lose Your Cool 

               If you freak out at them, it could come across really defensive and over reactive. You don't want to lose a friend from this.  

• Say Something

             Be upfront about it if you want actual change. They will never know if you feel uncomfortable if you don't say anything. Just be open about it and honest. 

• Don't Talk Shit
  

              If you constantly start talking bad about them behind their back about how annoying it is, then that is just stupid. it might be a good idea to ask a couple other friends if they feel the same way, but other then that don't go around spreading the news of their PDA. Just keep the issue small and it will end up being better for everyone.

• Walk Away and Let them Be

             If you have been in a relationship, chances are you have been in their position. The couple most likely does not realize how awkward you feel in the situation. If you find yourself being a third wheel, just remember that feeling so you don't repeat it once you get in a relationship. 

Competitive People

That person who takes competitiveness from the field to your friendship. Whether it's the friend who takes credit for everything or just the girl who always wants to fight for every guy, this competitiveness can provoke irritation and anxiety.

Some people will either just get annoyed with this person or try to beat them. If the person is a close friend and is constantly trying to make everything a competition literally just tell them straight up "not everything needs to be a competition."

Most competition stems from insecurity, so it is important to recognize this. If you don't want to lose the friend, just don't let it get to you. Ignore the competitiveness or setting your friend off. If he/she says bragged about getting an A- on a test, don't boast about the A that you got. 

Try to balance your time between this competitive friend and other friends who do not feel the need to compete with you. The relationship can end up being toxic and negative so do not try to keep up with it.

If this sounds like you, then plz just stop making everything a competition. It's annoying and no one likes it.

Authority

Stick it to the man!!

Dealing with authority can be extremely extremely risky to engage at your own risk.

When dealing with any sort of authority figure whether is be parents, teachers, or even legal authority the most important thing is compromise. Stick your ground, but know when enough is enough.

Much of authority in this world loves to abuse their power, and in reality it sometimes is not worth going against authority to prove your point. There is power in numbers, so getting a little union together can be extremely helpful in trying to prove a point to an authority figure.


If an authority figure continuously bothers you, then it is important to confront this issue with respect and extreme sensitivity. Going about this in an aggressive way can be extremely detrimental. But just remember, the problem will continue to persist until you confront the issue. While it might be daunting, in the end the situation will most likely be better for both parties.

Sometimes you have to just swallow your pride and do what the authority figure wants, but try to stay positive and do not get defensive in this situation.

Two-Faced

We've all encountered two-faced people at one time or another, especially being here in a town like Weston. This type of person can be described as someone who pretends to be your best friend to your face, while they have a knife stabbed in your back. Fortunately for us, there happens to be a variety of two-faced people here!!

They are users; the relationship is false and dishonest. Everyone is guilty every now and again to be "fake nice" to avoid awkwardness, but there is a difference between this and genuinely being friends with someone who you do not like and have no problem gossiping about them behind their back. That is soooooo Freshman year.

When you are around this so called two-faced person, just be cautious about what you say. This person will likely run and tell others what you just said a mere thirty seconds after you tell them.


Avoid being close with this person. Be civil and kill them with kindness. Turn your cheek and do not become one of these people although the resist to retaliate may be strong.


  In reality, you cannot change how a person is, so confronting them may not be the best idea. The only thing you actually can do is just not interact with them and surround yourself with substantial, truthful friendship instead of fake ones.

Compliment Fishers

"Does this make me look fat?"
 "Do I look ugly?"
"I'm never going to get a boyfriend!"
"No ones likes me."
"I look awful today."

Compliment Fishing: (verb) When someone essentially insults themself in order to get sympathy from other people. A flirting tactic used by many girls. (according to Urban Dictionary).

Ahh yes the dreaded questions that make you roll your eyes, yet you still tell them what they want to hear. When someone asks "do I look fat?" OBVIOUSLY YOU ARE GOING TO SAY NO. What's worse is when they don't accept the comment so you need to keep sympathizing with them -_-. Like, what is the point of even asking when you wouldn't want to know the true answer.

When you are dealing with this compliment fisher as a mere friend, you just gotta suck it up, then if this is a repeated occurance, GTFO. Just stop talking to that friend and don't get suckered into it.

If this is someone extremely close to you, then just put it point blank and answer truthfully. When I am asked those questions such as do I look ugly, I usually just say yes because it's annoying. 

It sucks being around people who constantly fish for dishonest compliments, which takes the point away of a compliment.

Little Kids

I literally cannot. We all have been faced with those obnoxious little kids who cry endlessly when their mom doesn’t buy them a new toy, or that baby that won’t shut up on the plane. Beyond annoying. As the generations progress, it seems as though little kids are becoming more and more disrespectful and unpleasant.

Sure, I am going to unconditionally love my own child, but having to deal with other people’s kids makes me feel some type of way. They are incapable of communicating their feelings, so instead they just cry, yell, and scream. Ugh. 

The only real solution to this problem lies in patience. If you are the parent, you need to start when the child is young, and learn how to improve your child’s behavior. While it might seems easier to give in to what a child is screaming, do NOT continuously give in. You are the adult and you make the rules.

If you are dealing with someone else’s kid, just try not to kick them in the head. Dealing with someone else’s kid is 1000 times worse than dealing with your own because you cannot cross that line between punishing them or just letting them get away with everything. Negotiation is key here with kids and you need to find that balance without getting too ticked off. Just remember, these kids are obnoxious so don’t take their behavior personally.

If you are unfortunate enough to voluntarily be babysitting, then get the hell out of there. Fast. And try not to go crazy.

The Complainers

They are the WORST. You know, the type of person that is CONSTANTLY complaining about everything. Oh god forbid you have a test in an AP class that you CHOSE to take. Guess what? There are people dying in the world and no one cares about your trivial "problems."

While optimists see the glass half full and pessimists see the glass half empty, these irritating complainers see A glass that is slightly chipped holding water that isn't cold enough, probably because it's tap water when I asked for bottled water and wait, there's a smudge on the rim, too, which means the glass wasn't cleaned properly and now I'll probably end up with some kind of virus. Why do these things always happen to me?! 

These people tend to believe that the whole word is against them and everything and everyone is rooting for them to lose. Is is a nearly impossible task to get them not to complain about something in their life. Having a full conversation with this type of person makes you want to stab your eyes out, but these people exist and we must cope with them.


When dealing with these complainers, here is what you should do:

• For the complainer that is a close friend or family member: In these situations, I usually tell them point blank- “Shut up and stop complaining.”

• For the complainer who is a mere acquaintance- just smile, nod, block out /what they are saying/daydream, then at the end simply just say, “wow that sucks, sorry.”

• For the complainer that literally complains about the most trivial things- I go for the sarcastic lines for these kinds of people because they are literally the worst “wow I’m so sorry for you, meanwhile there are people homeless and dying out there!!!!”
  
  

• If this complainer happens to be a close friend, keep your distance or else the negativity of them will constantly surround you like a raincloud. Unless you want your days surrounded by constant complaints, then ditch this friend! I mean YOLO so you might as well live it out with people who bring you up, not down.
   

However, never, and I mean never, try to compete with a complainer in an argument of ‘who has the worse situation' because a chronic complainer will most definitely always win.

If you’re reading this and a description for a complainer seems to match your personality, then please stop reading this blog. Just kidding, but you should probably filter your thoughts and be more aware of what you are saying because no one in this world wants to hear about other people constantly bitching about EVERYTHING.